Saturday, February 14, 2009

Prepare to be Enraged

This one has been around for a while, but if you haven't seen it yet, it's certainly worth checking out.

Travis Frey, a 33 year-old Iowa man, was charged with kidnapping his wife. Prosecutors discovered Travis had some control issues, and to prove it they entered into evidence a contract he had forced his wife to sign.

A "Contract of Wifely Expectations."

If you ever think your husband is a fucking dick, just wait until you get a load of this guy.

Put a towel down, because your fucking ovaries are going to explode.

You couldn't possibly imagine what you are about to read.

Contract of Wifely Expectations

(There's 4 pages- read it all if you can stomach it.)

56 comments:

  1. I am so angry right now.
    I... have no words. None. They escape me.

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  2. I'm actually speechless. I hope that fucker is enjoying the "wifely expectations" the boys in the prison shower have of him.

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  3. And she married this guy? I would have made a copy and marched straight down to the nearest lawyers office and told him to protect me from this psycho.

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  4. Oh my fucking god. Seriously i hope she dumped this arsehole.

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  5. This actually reads like a BDSM lifestyle contract: 24/7 Master/Slave contracts aren't dissimilar in nature. The key, though, is consent - people usually negotiate these together, before they get into the swing of it, and the slave always has the right to hand their collar back.

    They can be quite good, and when negotiated properly, quite fun, as well. Somehow, I don't think this one was a mutually decided upon contract, though.

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    1. Good points. I agree for the most part. But what here makes you think this was not a mutually decided BDSM contract?

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  6. "When we are in bed I can cuddle, spoon, hold or touch you in any way, as long as it is not excessively disruptive to your sleep."

    At least he's considerate. What a prince!

    Thank God for you, Weasel. It's not too late to join the harem, is it? ;)

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  7. Umm - i have 2 words for this guy. Fuck You.
    Something like this presented to me would earn that man a 1 way ticket to the lawyesr's office to sign the anulment papers.

    I wonder how he would like my relationship with my SO - I do whatever I want, including raising my voice and sleeping in flannel - my SO usually takes it unless I am being particularly bitchy. Something tells me I would be dead.

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  8. I think this guy's hot.. And he's single again! Yippee! kidding, of course. Initially my head exploded, but then I calmed down and realized this woman MARRIED him.. She liked what he had to offer at some point, and then had children with him. I really don't think you can completely hide what a cold, impersonal, mysoginistic (sp?) person you are through out the dating period, can you? Must have been some clues??

    I think my fave part (and there are many) is when he talks about garters and thongs and then says "Unless it is for CHURCH." Church! CHURCH!! This asshole attends church regularly.. Lordy, I love it..!

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  9. Wait - she actually let it go so far as to let him write such a paper??? A guy like this wouldn't have made it past the first date with me.

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  10. >>dante-deo said...
    This actually reads like a BDSM lifestyle contract<<

    The caveat you made about it being consensual is the thing that was missing from this little scenario though. BDSM FAIL on this douchebag’s part.

    I did find it interesting however that one third of the potential jury pool was dismissed because “they knew what a sex contract was.” Seems things aren’t so dull in Iowa after all.

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  11. Stupid school filter... I can't read it.

    But I get the feeling I"m better off without it... *stands and cheers the ladies on anyways*

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  12. The thing that baffles me--I mean, it's all baffling, but the weird little thing that GETS me, past all the outrage--is the illuminated letters and font change in the headers.

    It's just such a weird touch, on top of an already seriously weird document. You sort of expect things like this to be typed out in courier Unabomber-manifesto style. That he went through and tried to pretty up his little contract is like watching someone dither over where to place the radish rose on a horse turd.

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  13. If my hubby had ever dared to present me with something like this he would have his balls neatly presented back on a fucking platter.

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  14. Agree with date-deo, this reads like a BDSM contract. I've read worse... and better.

    Did this woman KNOW she was to be a submissive to this man? If not, she should RUN RUN RUN!!! If a guy suddenly springs a set of written "rules" on a woman, that is a BAD sign! He's saying he's going to make all the decisions, including "if you've been good", or if you "deserve" things.

    I do find, however, that most written contracts like this one are too hard for even the person who wrote it to follow and keep up on.

    But if you decide to play his little game for a month or two, and then things get a little relaxed, he WILL try to use it 'against' you.

    And there's no personalization here, either. If I were to have photos taken the same day I shaved, he'd be hiring a retoucher to get rid of all those red bumps! And don't get me started on the menstruation part!

    Hubby and I ARE in a BDSM relationship, but it's VERY relaxed as far as rules go. He's VERY sweet and understanding, and knows that I have some medical problems that do affect our 'playtime'. But he also knows that when I'm well and having a good day, our 'play' can get as intense as he wants!

    You can be an evil mean sadistic Dominant without hurting or killing anyone!

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  15. This fucking cockstain makes me physically ill.
    I mean really.
    BDSM relationships are one thing. But to treat your wife in such a manner...almost akin to a animal? That is inexcusable.
    I would never let a man dictate my life in such a manner.
    But then again, maybe I'm just weird.

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  16. Wow. I think what really gets me is that (according to The Smoking Gun) she refused to sign it BUT DIDN'T LEAVE HIM! She even kept a copy of it and LATER provided it to the cops! If my hubby handed me that and seriously expected me to sign it, I don't care if we were still planning the wedding, newlyweds or had been married for a long time, I'd stop at a lawyer on my way to the cops with that document!

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  17. Wow is right. I think he needs to be signing that contract himself as he heads into prison for the next 80 years. It makes me sick to think there are still people like this out there.

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  18. I.. uh... umm... geez... damn... don't know what to say!!

    I just can't believe that this woman spent any sort of time with him and did not get any clues that he was like that. Or maybe she did and she just let it go.

    I, personally am to strong of a woman to be with a douche like that!! THANK GOD. I don't understand how someone could deal with shit like that!

    I mean really, I am here sitting on the computer and my hubby is in the garage building me a tack trunk... in the middle of winter... in Wisconsin. Why?? because I want one!!

    I am sooooooo very lucky!!!

    :)

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  19. ewwww. I would take the contract, shred it up, use it for bedding in my horse's stall, muck it out after a week of it being in there, and then put it in a paper bag and give it to him as a lovely present.

    PS - this makes my love my boyfriend lots :D

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  20. Hope he earned plenty of GBDs from Bubba in prison.

    He would have been better off with an inflatable--but would have gotten frustrated from having to keep buying new ones after making them shave their 1/4"-too-long pubic hair.

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  21. Because nothing says "I love you" like a freshly shaved anus.

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  22. FYI He was also sentenced for abuse and child porn. I second water_bearer: "I hope that fucker is enjoying the 'wifely expectations' the boys in the prison shower have of him."

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  23. A Women's Studies prof I work with used this in a class so I have seen this a few times -

    But it's still a shock to read. And wtf what that woman thinking?!?

    I think a straight razor to the testicles (for shaving purposes, of course) would have been an appropriate response.

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  24. I dunno, Jadis. A straight razor seems too safe- maybe a rusty grapefruit spoon?

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  25. I think it's hilarious! I can only picture his expression when she looked at it, raised her eyebrows, crossed out "Wifely" and wrote "Husbandly" at the top, and slipped it back across the table.

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  26. wow

    That is really scary. That is REALLY scary.

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  27. wow...yeah, I'd say this douchebag meets the current DSM-IV-TR criteria of a sadist.

    Note there is a difference between dom/sub role playing relationships (where both parties give their full consent) vs. a *true* sadist who takes pleasure in controlling/inflicting pain upon an *unwilling* victim - in which case I'll take smug satisfaction with the idea that he's probably busy meeting the "wifely" expectations of the general population of some federal prison.

    MWAA HAA HAA!! >:)

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  28. Oh my goodness, time for a therapy session. For me, not IowaMaster6969. I have to agree with other posters that this is a classic Master/Slave contract, one that hints of discussion between husband and wife before drafting (note the consideration that is not inherent for the male gender). So why do I need therapy? Because I am the only poster here who thinks this is just a weeeee bit HOT. I am a strong, intelligent woman but the thought of being the YOU in this contract, the one that the other strong and intelligent women here think is disgusting, totally excites me. *SIGH* Please don't ban me from the WWHM/PFLM circle!! Does anyone agree with me even a little bit?

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  29. p.s.

    @ Ladyfingers8 'Because nothing says "I love you" like a freshly shaved anus.'

    Fucking right! :)

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  30. Those illuminated capital letters are little pictures of people fucking... the contract is douchebaggery, but going to the trouble of googling "sex picture font", downloading it, and using it is insane.

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  31. He's really serious about her "pet name". I wonder what she picked?

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  32. if it were MY husband, i'd chop his willy off, and make him eat it. and leave.

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  33. I remember seeing this when it hit the fan...

    I think that Mister Master started out... normal .... then maybe started reading too much pinkflamingo.com ?

    And got all courageous on some chatrooms?

    I dunno, I don't remember the outcome...

    It just seems cheesy as well as mean.

    I love you guys, btw.

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  34. How incredibly disgusting. I need a shower and a hug from my wonderful husband.

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  35. MadBliss: No you're not crazy. BDSM wouldn't exist if there weren't people who were intrested in submissive/dominant relationships.

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  36. MadBliss said "Am I the only poster who finds this a weeeeee bit hot?" Nope, I find some erotic undertones as well. I think the problem is is that the contract seems so wholley one sided that she likely didn't have any say in the rules whatsoever. This dude is a psychopath that's for sure.

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  37. I need to go throw up now. This is just one more reason why I only share my bed with a Labrador and two cats.

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  38. Yes. This is the only correct way a female dog should be treated. Approved.
    -Abdullah the Gut Slasher

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  39. Asshole totally deserves jail. The word "consensual" apparently doesn't mean anything to him.

    I kind of like the terms of the contract per se, but seriously, if you're into BDSM you should marry someone who's also into BDSM, not marry a normal person, have kids with her, and then after several years suddenly expect her to morph from "wife" into "slave"!

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  40. That is beyond awful; I can't even think straight right now because I'm so incredibly angry! I hope he rots in prison!

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  41. Me mum used to tell me to avoid church because the folks who go there are usually the ones who have to atone for some serious bullshit...this is definitive proof

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  42. there's no consideration on the husband's part so I think the contract fails.

    http://lawdemon.blogspot.com/

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  43. wow. i'm a lifestyle submissive and found this contract ridiculous and insulting. i don;t know who's the bigger douche- him for writing it or her for marrying him anyway.

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  44. Considering he obviously spent a fair bit of time on this document, it's incredibly vague. I read it all and I still don't understand what the hell Good Behaviour Days are. Maybe he should have spent more time clarifying his thoughts and less on choosing pretty fonts.

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  45. That sick little twit...

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  46. big deal.....the bitch married him and then wants to complain?

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  47. Call me whatever you want, but I blame her.

    Yes, I blame her for uttering anything at him that's not "get the fuck away from me you fucking psycho"

    I'm not saying she deserved it or anything, but she should have realized sooner.

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  48. A lot of people seem equally upset at his wife for not leaving him. I think it's really important to realize how manipulative and dangerous men like this can be. They pick women who already have low self esteem, they isolate them from their friends, and they make sure that she knows something awful will happen if she ever tries to leave.

    Even strong, smart women can be abused. My mother-in-law lived with her asshole husband for 26 years, and she's the smartest, toughest woman I know. Why did she stay? She stayed because the threatened her, she had no money, she had nowhere to go, the Bible told her he was the boss, and she stayed because she had to protect her children.

    Please at least try to understand what domestic abuse is like before getting angry at this guy's wife for staying with him.

    -MissMaia

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    1. Thank you! There is a lot of victim blaming in these comments.

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